Building on Change

You are in the business of building the best life you can have. You know nothing ever changes while you stay the same. Some times when we feel like "something" is missing or "something" isn't right or we feel like we are not making progress, it is because we have outgrown what we are doing in life and we need to move on and move up.  If you are one of those people that feel like being in the same spot all the time is normal, you are in denial of your potential to grow and flourish. If you are struggling to become the "you" you have always wanted to be, perhaps you should remove fear from your line of sight and just step out there. It takes courage to do something different. It takes courage to change the routine. It is ok to feel afraid to do something and it is ok to feel pain while you are doing that "something" what ever it may be. If you feel afraid, you feel real. But fear is clearly an illusion. Ask yourself, "what am I afraid of?" Now make a list of all those things you are afraid of: failure, rejection, being different, not being liked, and other emotional responses to change. Follow that up with another question: "How many times did (fill in the blank with some one you look up to) fail at (fill in the blank with that thing your role model has be come successful at) before they were successful. Ask yourself: "If they had given up, would they be my role model today?" More than likely the answer is no. More than likely, you would not even know who they are. Are you the pebble on the bank waiting for some one else to come along and toss you in before you make a change or are you the person that comes along and tosses the pebble into the water that causes the ripples that cause the waves that cause the change? You see how that works? You have to be the catalyst for your own change.

Remove the barriers to change. Put the baggage on the curb. Stop sitting on the tool box and open it up and take out the tools you need to build your dreams into your reality. You are the architect of your own world.  I don't know you from Adam, but what I do know is you are the sole proprietor of your existence. I don't know what you believe, faith is the foundation from which all strong people are built. Faith strengthens many from the inside out. Faith can fuel the fire for many to make the necessary changes that get them where they want to be tomorrow. Think of your life as if it were a car. There is a specific direction you want your car to go. There is a specific destination you want your car to take you to. If life is a car, would you rather be in the driver's seat or the passenger's seat. Trust me, being in the passenger's seat watching the scenery zoom past will land you in a place you definitely do not want to be. There are no breaks on the passenger side. There is no steering wheel on the passenger side, and strapping yourself into the seatbelt wont always keep you safe. The ride might be nice for a little while but what about when you turn down that road you did not want to turn down or you look up and there is that "detour" sign in front of you. Now what do you do. Suddenly, you become motivated to take over the driving and get things back on course. Of course you are. But how are you going to do it? Stop the car. Pull over. Get your bearings, and set your course.  Make your plan by visualizing where you want to go.

Visualize what your destination will look like. Visualize the smell, the taste, the colors, and every aspect of that destination from the feel of the carpet to the feel of the brick to the feel of the fabric your clothing will be made from. Know it like you know the sky is blue. Keep that image in your mind. Create reminders of your destination and call it "MY REALITY." Create your dream map. On that dream map follow a deliberate course toward your reality. Create a tangible image of each and every benchmark you want to reach. Don't worry so much about the road in front of you, focus on the destination. Is it a home you want? Then visualize that home what it looks like from the shingles to the grass to the drywall screws. Concentrate on that image. Don't worry about the how. Concentrate on the what. The stepping stones will reveal themselves and you will be surprised how things fall into place. You know beyond a shadow of a doubt that it will happen for you and do not for a moment doubt that it will happen. Doubt will rob you of the good that is coming your way. Don't let doubt, fear, self pity, low self esteem, and a lack of confidence rob you of your good. I know that you can do it, what ever  it is. I know you will be the best. I know that you will soar. I am confident that you can .